Women -- History; Women -- Psychology; Women -- Social conditions
Such an instance of compunction was recently brought to my attention
when Hull-House made an effort to place a subnormal little girl twelve
years old in an institution in order that she might be protected from
certain designing men in the neighborhood. The grandmother who had
always taken care of her savagely opposed the effort step by step. She
had scrubbed the lavatories in a public building during the twenty-five
years of her widowhood, and because she worked all day had been unable
to protect her own feeble-minded daughter who, when barely fifteen
years old, had become the mother of this child. When her granddaughter
was finally placed in the institution, the old woman was absolutely
desolated. She found it almost impossible to return home after her
day’s work because “it was too empty and lonesome, and nothing to come
back for. You see,” she explained, “my youngest boy wasn’t right in his
head either and kept his bed for the last fifteen years of his life.
During all that time I took care of him the way one does of a baby,
and I hurried home every night with my heart in my mouth until I saw
that he was all right. He died the year this little girl was born and
she kind of took his place. I kept her in a day nursery while she was
little, and when she was seven years old the ladies there sent her
to school in one of the subnormal rooms and let her come back to the
nursery for her meals. I thought she was getting along all right and I
took care never to let her go near her mother.” The old woman made it
quite clear that this was because her daughter was keeping house with
a man with whom there had been no marriage ceremony. In her simple
code, to go to such a house would be to connive at sin, and while she
was grateful that the man had established a control over her daughter
which she herself had never been able to obtain, she always referred
to her daughter as “fallen,” although no one knew better than she how
unguarded the girl had been. As I saw how singularly free this mother
was from self-reproach and how untouched by any indecisions or remorses
for the past, I was once more impressed by the strength of the stout
habits acquired by those who early become accustomed to fight off black
despair. Such habits stand them in good stead in old age, and at least
protect them from those pensive regrets and inconsolable sorrows which
inevitably tend to surround whatever has once made for early happiness,
as soon as it has ceased to exist.
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