The want of conjugal resemblance not only works mediately on the
child, it works mutually on the parents; for companionship, as is well
recognized, tends to similarity. Now companionship is the last thing to
be looked for in a far-eastern couple. Where custom requires a wife to
follow dutifully in the wake of her husband, whenever the two go out
together, there is small opportunity for intercourse by the way, even
were there the slightest inclination to it, which there is not.
The appearance of the pair on an excursion is a walking satire on
sociability, for the comicality of the connection is quite unperceived
by the performers. In the privacy of the domestic circle the separation,
if less humorous, is no less complete. Each lives in a world of his own,
largely separate in fact in China and Korea, and none the less in fancy
in Japan. On the continent a friend of the husband would see little or
nothing of the wife, and even in Japan he would meet her much as we meet
an upper servant in a friend's house. Such a semi-attached relationship
does not conduce to much mutual understanding.
The remainder of our hero's uneventful existence calls for no particular
comment. As soon as he has children borne him he is raised ipso facto
from the position of a common soldier to that of a subordinate officer
in the family ranks. But his opportunities for the expression of
individuality are not one whit increased. He has simply advanced a peg
in a regular hierarchy of subjection. From being looked after himself
he proceeds to look after others. Such is the extent of the change.
Even should he chance to be the eldest son of the eldest son, and
thus eventually end by becoming the head of the family, he cannot
consistently consider himself. There is absolutely no place in his
social cosmos for so particular a thing as the ego.
With a certain grim humor suggestive of metaphysics, it may be said of
his whole life that it is nothing but a relative affair after all.
Chapter 3. Adoption.
But one may go a step farther in this matter of the family, and by so
doing fare still worse with respect to individuality. There are certain
customs in vogue among these peoples which would seem to indicate that
even so generic a thing as the family is too personal to serve them for
ultimate social atom, and that in fact it is only the idea of the family
that is really important, a case of abstraction of an abstract. These
suggestive customs are the far-eastern practices of adoption and
abdication.
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