Virginibus Puerisque, and Other Papers — John Shaqi
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economist, and yet of a generous disposition. As to her internal
accomplishments, I have reason to speak still more highly of them: good
sense without vanity, a penetrating judgment without a disposition to
satire, with about as much religion as my William likes, struck me with a
wish that she was my William’s wife.” That is about the tune: pleasing
voice, moderate good looks, unimpeachable internal accomplishments after
the style of the copy-book, with about as much religion as my William
likes; and then, with all speed, to church.
To deal plainly, if they only married when they fell in love, most people
would die unwed; and among the others, there would be not a few
tumultuous households. The Lion is the King of Beasts, but he is
scarcely suitable for a domestic pet. In the same way, I suspect love is
rather too violent a passion to make, in all cases, a good domestic
sentiment. Like other violent excitements, it throws up not only what is
best, but what is worst and smallest, in men’s characters. Just as some
people are malicious in drink, or brawling and virulent under the
influence of religious feeling, some are moody, jealous, and exacting
when they are in love, who are honest, downright, good-hearted fellows
enough in the everyday affairs and humours of the world.
How then, seeing we are driven to the hypothesis that people choose in
comparatively cold blood, how is it they choose so well? One is almost
tempted to hint that it does not much matter whom you marry; that, in
fact, marriage is a subjective affection, and if you have made up your
mind to it, and once talked yourself fairly over, you could “pull it
through” with anybody. But even if we take matrimony at its lowest, even
if we regard it as no more than a sort of friendship recognised by the
police, there must be degrees in the freedom and sympathy realised, and
some principle to guide simple folk in their selection. Now what should
this principle be? Are there no more definite rules than are to be found
in the Prayer-book? Law and religion forbid the bans on the ground of
propinquity or consanguinity; society steps in to separate classes; and
in all this most critical matter, has common sense, has wisdom, never a
word to say? In the absence of more magisterial teaching, let us talk it
over between friends: even a few guesses may be of interest to youths and
maidens.
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