Woman—through a man's eyeglassSalaman, Malcolm C. (Malcolm Charles)
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Woman—through a man's eyeglass
Salaman, Malcolm C. (Malcolm Charles)
Single women; Wives -- Anecdotes; Women -- Anecdotes; Women -- Social and moral questions
Miss Strongith’will would be very indignant—very angry—if any one
suggested that she ever wanted a husband; not that she has anything
but respect and admiration for the domestic affections, for the
peaceful beauties of home, for the lovely relations of parents and
children, brothers and sisters. But she would resent the implication
that she could not have been married had she so desired. As a matter
of fact, she has had love affairs and offers of marriage; but those
which she had before experience and critical judgment had tempered
her susceptibility, were of the ineligible order—the medical student
with a practice in prospect, the briefless barrister, the young artist
who ought to be “on the line,” if only the Academicians were not so
jealous, and so on. But these were in the days when a dance would lure
her from any studies, when she was not above being flattered by the
attentions of a “nice young man,” and before she had realised that
“life is earnest, life is real, life is not an empty dream.” Now,
however, she has become serious and superior, and the ordinary young
man who flirts and dances and plays tennis is as nought to her. Men
interest her, she says, intellectually, and only according to the
measure of their mental powers or artistic sensibilities does she value
their companionship. Let no man dare to talk frivolously to her; she
would resent it as an insult to her understanding. If he attempted to
pay conventional compliments, he would receive such a snub as should
serve him for a lifetime, and put a check on the honeyed side of his
tongue for evermore.
But Miss Strongith’will is not a stone, she is full of humanity, full
of sympathy for those who suffer and those who struggle for existence
or strive to realise lofty aspirations. She is only hard upon women
who lower their natures for the love of men, who submit to martyrdom,
or turn sour because they have been disappointed in love. She contends
that love is not, as Byron has it, “woman’s whole existence,” but
that, as the poet says with regard to man, it is of her life “a thing
apart”—a beautiful thing that adorns her life and makes it more lovely,
but not absolutely necessary as an active influence. But it could
hardly be that a woman who thinks and theorises about love has never
felt its magic spell, that she has never known the beautiful joy of
loving and of being loved. Miss Strongith’will’s individualism is
opposed to any outward show of emotion, and an ordinary acquaintance,
even a friend, would never quite penetrate to her heart’s secrets. She
never talks of her love affair—her great love affair, I mean, which
changed the girl to woman, and made her herself. But I know something
of what it was to her, what she suffered with the disappointment.
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