That it is a woman’s destiny to create human beings, whether she
fulfils it or not, is amply confirmed by the natural bias of her
interests. In spite of convention her interest in human beings is
stronger and more spontaneous than her interest in anything else.
Almost from the cradle a girl studies the people around her more
attentively than a boy does, and is quicker in imitating their tricks
of speech and behaviour. A little later she turns naturally to dolls,
not because of an absurdly precocious maternal instinct, but because
dolls are substitutes for human beings, and her creative fancy can
play upon them without restriction. A doll is not necessarily a son
or daughter: it is by turns a confidant, a scapegoat, and a talisman.
Later still her interest in other people becomes practically a ruling
passion: and since she is not merely a potential wife and mother but
a potential woman, she is interested not only in possible sweethearts
but in everybody. She is inquisitive about human relationships of every
kind. She is indifferent to things which have no human interest: she
values things for their associations, or the power they give her over
other people. The intimacy between an adolescent girl and her bosom
friend for the time being is based on a mutual interest in human nature
and a common standard of critical values which they apply to each other
as well as to the world. They analyse motives, provoke moods, love and
hate with such intensity that emotional explosions are inevitable.
Their interest is not that of mere spectators at the human comedy: they
are ready to play important parts in it; and they test at every point
their influence over others.
When fifteen-year-old girls write essays on “What I should like to
be,” the aspirations disclosed are rarely intellectual or material.
Nearly every girl wants to be popular, to be an influence for good,
to establish a reputation for cheerfulness and kindness, in short,
to be successful in handling human beings. When she leaves school
the same bias continues. The average girl is more interested in
the people around her than in her work, especially if her work has
little direct human interest. If her daily work does not consist of
personal relations to other people, her efficiency in it depends upon
the approval of her employers rather than upon her pride in the work
itself. She sees herself as the sunbeam in the office, or as the
comforter of her employer’s broken life, or as a moral influence--in
other words, where no human interest exists in her surroundings she
takes pains to invent it. It is this entirely womanly impulse which
generates most of the sentiment and scandal among women.
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