Are Parents People? — John Stuart Mill — John Shaqi
Are Parents People?
John Stuart Mill · en
"Lita, I want to speak to you about interrupting. It's a habit a great
many women allow themselves to form. It's not only rude, but it's
extremely irritating--alienating, indeed." He went on to assert that
such a habit might even wreck her married life. A man, he said, who was
interrupted every time he opened his mouth might get so that he never
spoke at all; never told his wife things she ought to know.
Lita glanced at him sympathetically. Did the poor dear suppose she
did not know just what he meant? She had suffered herself. Her mother
often accused her of concealing things which she had tried repeatedly
to tell; only her mother, with her mind running like a hound on some
other idea, did not even hear. And yet on the other hand she had
felt sympathetic when, not long before, her mother had delivered a
short lecture on the treachery of silence; she had said--and quite
truly--that a silence could be just as much of a lie as a spoken word.
She wondered if she were a weak nature, agreeing with everyone who
spoke to her.
At the hotel she found her father had ordered a special luncheon for
her delight, composed of all the things he liked best himself. The
regular hotel dinner, with its immense opportunities for choice, would
have been a treat to Lita after the monotony of school fare; but she
enjoyed the prestige that the special order gave them in the eyes of
the dragoonlike head waitress, who never left their table. That was one
of the amusing things about going out with her father. He had a quiet
assumption of importance which made everyone think him important.
They had been at table several minutes before he spoke. He said, "If
you take so much sauce you lose the flavor of the fish."
"I like the flavor of the sauce best," said Lita, and he smiled, a
little sadly, as if he were at a loss to understand how his child could
be such an utter barbarian.
Conscious that she had not quite so much time as he thought she had,
she hurried to the point and asked him what it was he wanted to
discuss. He seemed to be thinking deeply, which alarmed her; then he
reached out and added a dash of pepper to his fish.
"Oh," he said, "I find I must go to Italy on business next summer. I
wonder if you could arrange it with your mother so that you could go
with me."
"Mercy!" exclaimed Lita. "I was afraid you were going to tell me you
were going to be married again."
He looked up with a swift dark glance.
"Who put that idea into your head?" he asked.
"No one; it just occurred to me."
Where opposing affections exist, a lady, as much as a gentleman, is
obliged to lie.
"That was your mother's idea," said her father, and gave a short,
bitter laugh, as if human depravity could hardly go lower than to have
made such a suggestion.