Are Parents People? — John Stuart Mill — John Shaqi
Are Parents People?
John Stuart Mill · en
Well, Lita thought, perhaps her mother ought not to have said it; and
yet, why not? Her father had remarried once. It made her feel old and
cold, always to be obliged to weigh criticisms and complaints, to
decide which of the two people she loved best in the world was right
and which was wrong, every other minute. How she envied girls who could
accept their parents as a unit!
Seeing her father's mind still occupied with his wrongs, she turned the
conversation back to Italy. Of course, she would adore going--at least
she would if her mother would agree to it.
"Of course, we could not go otherwise," said her father, and there was
somehow in his tone the suggestion that he and his poor child were in
the grip of an irrational and arbitrary power. After a moment he added,
"And we'd stop in Paris on our way back and get you a lot of things."
He smiled--he had a delightful, merry smile, quite at variance to his
habitual blankness. "I don't suppose that idea is exactly repugnant to
you?"
It wasn't, though Lita knew it was practically bribery. She adored
shopping with her father. His method was simple. He went to the best
shop and asked for their best things. If he liked them he bought them.
If he didn't like them he went to the next-best shop. There was no
haggling, no last-minute doubts whether, since the expense was so
great, she really needed to get the things after all. Her father in
Paris! It was a delirious thought.
"I should enjoy Paris with you, Pat," she said. He smiled with a faint
suggestion that others had felt the same way. "If only mother approves."
"I don't see that there is anything to disapprove of, even for your
mother, in a man's taking his daughter to Paris."
"What I mean is if she is really cordial about it. I could not go if
she weren't cordial."
"Then," said her father, "we may as well give it up at once. For, of
course, your mother won't be cordial. She won't want you to go. She
never wants you out of her sight if she can help it."
"Father, mother isn't a bit selfish like that."
"I never said she was. It is natural she should want you to be with
her. Please get it into your head, Lita, that I should never under any
circumstances criticize your mother--least of all to you."
Lita looked at him reflectively. If he had been Aurelia she would have
said "Bunk, my dear, and you know it." That was the way she and Aurelia
carried on their relation--in the open. Candor cleared the air; but
older people, Lita had found, did not really want the air cleared.
They could not stand criticism; perhaps that was why they were always
insisting that they did not criticize, when as a matter of fact they
never did anything else.