Femina, A Work for Every Woman — John Stuart Mill — John Shaqi
Femina, A Work for Every Woman
John Stuart Mill · en
Man is prompted by a powerful instinctive desire for the use of the
sexual organs, that draws him involuntarily to the opposite sex, not
for the continuance of the race, because the passion arises much
oftener without the remotest thoughts of any fruitful results. I have
the greatest regard for the life of the unborn child, yet I am far from
agreeing with those who would stamp as libidinous every thought of the
sexual instinct, that has not as its stimulus the procreation of the
species. While the average man is in the flesh, he is an animal man,
and there is no use of trying to make a spiritual saint out of flesh
and blood, and when we do find that, we have a very exceptional and
remarkable person. But what, as reasonable beings, we should do, is
to bridle the animal passions with moral reins, so that we can stand
up, in full-statured manhood, with the respectful approval of our
own conscience, able to rise above the mere animal appetites, to the
dignity of reasonable beings. This instinct, like other propensities,
is excited by sensations, and these may originate either in the sexual
organs themselves, or may be excited through the organs of special
sense. In man the passion is most powerfully aroused by impressions
conveyed through the sight or the touch. It often happens that
localized sensations will excite the sexual desire of either sex, so
that many cases of excessive sexual desire can be traced to some local
disease of the genital apparatus: chief among the numerous causes that
may be cited, is pruritus or local itch, erythema and active congestion
of the womb and ovaries.
“This tendency cannot be regarded,” says Dr. Carpenter, “as a simple
passion or emotion, since it is the result of the combined operations
of the reason, the imagination, and the moral feelings: it is in
this engraftment of the physical or spiritual attachment upon the
more corporeal instinct, that a difference exists between the sexual
relations of man and those of the lower animals. In proportion as
the human being makes the temporary gratification of the mere sexual
appetites his chief object, and overlooks the happiness arising from
spiritual communion, which is not only purer but more permanent, and of
which a renewal may be anticipated in another world,—does he degrade
himself to a level with the brutes that perish. Yet how lamentably
frequent is this degradation.” This quotation gives the entire physical
and spiritual aspect of the question, by one of the most eminent
physiologists of our time, so that in the natural course of our
investigation we are led to inquire into the currents of thought, which
would tend towards developing _moral restraint_.
Moral restraint means the restraint of the animal man by his spiritual
or higher self; the _will_ must possess its due predominance to
exercise its determining power in curbing the passions of the one, and
directing the course of the thought in the other.