Revolving lights : $b Pilgrimage, Volume 7 — John Stuart Mill — John Shaqi
Revolving lights : $b Pilgrimage, Volume 7
John Stuart Mill · en
"London's _fine_. But the folks don't all match it. The girls don't.
They're just queer. I reckon there's two things they don't know. How to
wear their waists, and how to go around with the boys. When I hear an
English girl talking to boys, I just have to think she's funny in the
head. If Canadian girls were stiff like that, they'd have the dullest
time on earth." Her expressionless pale blue eyes had fixed no one, and
she had concluded her speech with a little fling that had settled her
back in her chair, unconcerned.
And in the interval before the ride home, when the men had been driven
off, and she was alone with the sisters and saw them relax and yawn,
speak in easy casual tones and apostrophise small things, with great
gusto, in well-chosen forcible terms, while the men were no doubt also
enjoying the same blessed relief, she had felt that the Canadian girl
was more right than she knew. Between men and girls, throughout English
life there was no exchange, save in the ways of love. Except for those
moments when they stood, to each other, for all the world, they never
met. And the sense of these sacred moments embarrassed, even while it
shaped and beautified, every occasion. Women were its guardians and
hostesses. Their guardianship made them hostesses for life. Upon the
faces of these girls as they sat about unmasked and pathetically
individual, it shed its radiance and, already, its heavy shadows.
Yet American girls with their easy regardlessness seemed lacking in
depth of feminine consciousness, too much turned towards the surfaces of
life, and the men with their awakened understanding and quick
serviceableness, by so much the less men. In any case there was not the
recognisable difference in personality that was so striking in England,
and that seemed in some way, even at one's moments of greatest
irritation with the women, to bring all the men under a reproach. Many
young American men had faces moulded on the lines of responsible
middle-aged German housewives; while some of the quite young girls
looked out at life with the sharp shrewd repudiation of cynical elderly
bachelors. If it were the building up of a civilisation that had brought
the sexes together, for generations, in relations that came in English
society only momentarily, at a house-warming or a picnic, would the
results remain? Or would there be, in America, later on, a beginning of
the English differences, the women moving, more and more heavily veiled
and burdened, towards the heart of life and the men getting further and
further away from the living centre. Ought men and women to modify each
other, each standing as it were, halfway between the centre and the
surface, each with a view across the other's territory? Or should they
accentuate their natural differences? _Were_ the differences natural?