Neither the natural gaiety of the French, nor their love of
singularity, is the cause of this freedom of conversation and
behaviour for which these ladies are so remarkable; but it is rather
to be deduced from their manners, by which they are authorized to
spend all their time in the company of men; and hence it is, that the
behaviour of each sex seems to be copied from the other.
Our Swiss ladies, on the contrary, are fond of little female
assemblies, in which they are extremely social and happy; [32] for,
though they probably may not dislike the company of men, yet it is
certain their presence is some constraint upon them.
In Paris it is quite the reverse; the women are never easy nor
satisfied without the men. In most companies, the lady of the house is
seen alone amidst a circle of gentlemen, and this is so generally the
case, that one cannot help wondering how such an unequal proportion of
men can be every where assembled. But Paris is full of _avanturiers_,
priests and abbés, who spend their whole lives in running from house
to house. Thus the women learn to think, act and speak from the men,
whilst these, in return, imbibe a certain degree of effeminacy; and
this seems the only consequence of their trifling gallantry: however,
they enjoy a fulsome adoration, in which their devotees do not think
it worth while to preserve even the appearance of sincerity. No
matter: in the midst of her circle, she is the sole object of
attention, and that’s sufficient. But, if a second female enters the
room, familiarity instantly gives place to ceremony, the high airs of
quality are assumed, the adoration becomes divided, and each continues
to be a secret constraint upon the other till the company breaks up.
The Parisian ladies are fond of public diversions: that is, they are
fond of shewing themselves in public; but the great difficulty, every
time they go, is to find a female companion, for decorum will not
allow one lady alone to appear in the boxes, even though attended by
her husband, or by any other man. It is amazing, in this very social
country, how difficult it is to form these parties; out of ten that
are proposed, nine generally miscarry: they are projected by the
desire of being seen, and are broken by the disagreeable necessity for
a sister petticoat. I should imagine it an easy matter for the ladies
to abolish this ridiculous custom. What reason can there be why a
woman should not be seen alone in public? perhaps, there being no
reason for it, is the very cause of its continuance. However, upon the
whole, it may be prudent to preserve decency where the abolition would
be attended with no great satisfaction. What great matter would there
be in the privilege of appearing alone at the opera? is it not much
better to reserve this exclusive privilege for the private reception
of one’s friends in one’s own house?